This blogging project has been great fun and a huge learning experience. It’s been more work than I realized, but the moments of connection it’s facilitated have made it worth it.
Thank you for your engagement. I deeply appreciate all of it, but I can’t go on this way.
Some of you respect my experience and abilities far too much than is warranted and I’ve let that go to my head. I thought I could chart the path toward making a Blue Ocean family while I discovered it myself, but I’m wrong.
Sometimes I feel brave and experienced as I chart the parenting waters.
Sometimes I feel lost and ignorant and supremely unqualified to write a parenting blog.
I am a brave explorer with valuable experience that can help others, but since this blog is about creating your own blue ocean, how can I think I should or could give you a map?
I’ve struggled since the beginning to put into words what I’m doing with this blog and what I hope to inspire in my readers.
How do we think deeply about my choices as a parent while respecting the choices of others and at the same time avoid the trap of saying it doesn’t matter what we choose?
I just finished Daring Greatly by Brené Brown and could jump for joy because she nails it.
This blog is about daring greatly in parenting.
From the book:
“To me the questions of parenting values is about engagement. Are we paying attention? Thinking through our choices? Open to learning and being wrong? Curious and willing to ask questions? What I’ve learned from my work is that there are a million ways out in the world to be a wonderful, engaged parent, and some of them are going to bump up against what I personally think about parenting. . . I think the key is remembering that when other parents make different choice than we’re making, it’s not necessarily criticism. Daring greatly means finding our own path and respecting what that search looks like for other folks.”
“I’m not a parenting expert. In fact, I’m not sure that I even believe in the idea of “parenting experts.” I’m an engaged, imperfect parent and a passionate researcher. . . I’m an experienced mapmaker and a stumbling traveler. Like many of you, parenting is by far my boldest and most daring adventure.”
I can wholeheartedly say the above for myself, except that I’m not an experienced mapmaker.
So Mom, don’t worry. I won’t give up blogging. I’m just changing the tone. I’m a stumbling traveler.
Sometimes I’ll extract lessons from my explorations and sometimes I’ll just share my struggles to dare greatly as a parent.
Together we can ask tough questions, engage deeply with our families, and share the joys and tears along the way.
Together we can dare greatly. (Now go read the book!)