I’ve been sick and discouraged, feeling guilty about all the things I’m not doing for my kids.
Each time I hear of a friend or acquaintance whose kids are doing something we’ve never done I get a sinking feeling in my stomach.
I write a blog on how we can’t and shouldn’t do everything, but I still feel oppressed by the idea that I’m failing my kids.
Since listening to this I’ve enjoyed my kids more than I have in recent memory – and if you follow this blog you know how hard it is for me to enjoy my family when there is work to be done (and there always is!). She said when you get a moment of peace don’t make it harder (time to get to work!), just breathe it in and enjoy it. So simple, but I’d forgotten it!
Here are a few quotes to entice you, but I recommend listening to the whole thing if you get a chance.
“When our kids are enchanted they are quiet . . . And because they’re quiet we might mistake the moment. We might think they’re not engaged.” (24:20)
On why “Enchantment” matters:
“People who are richly satisfied and whole on the inside are insatiably curious and open to learning.” (31:15)
Julie Bogart reminded me that a perfect house is not compatible with enchantment. If you strive for perfection you kill the magic. She quotes Thomas Moore in The Re-Enchantment of Everyday Life:
“A home will never be perfect, for perfection is an idea and an ideal, and our home is always an approximation of our dream. I wouldn’t want to live in a perfect home, because enchantment and perfection do not lie in the same order of things. If you’re looking for perfection, you don’t pursue enchantment, and vice versa.” (Moore, l996 p. 82)
I’ve decided to lower my hopes (standards make it sound as if I achieve it) for a clean house, but I’ve also implemented a compromise:
I did a quick purge of the bedroom and will make it my “clutter-free haven.” If I can have one space that is peaceful then I think I’ll better be able to enjoy the mess that is having kids!
So give yourself some encouragement and listen to the periscope! Then come back and tell us how it inspired you.
Note: You don’t have to know anything about periscope, just click the link and you’ll see the video. Also, she’s talking to homeschoolers, but what she says applies to anyone who is intentional about raising kids – which is all of you who read this blog!