I used to make resolutions like “read my Bible every day” but no matter how many days in a row I stuck with it, I always felt like a failure the first day I didn’t manage to keep it up.
Since missing one day meant breaking my resolution, there was usually little motivation left to keep trying.
I might have read my Bible 30 days in a row but my focus was on my one failure. How crazy is that? 30 to one is a pretty good ratio.
Imagine if I’d kept up that pace for the rest of the year – I’d have stuck with my resolution 353 days and only failed 12 days! That’s an impressive amount of success!
Even if we “fail” half the time, that’s still some 180 days in the year of moving in the right direction. I call that a success.
If you’ve made a resolution to do (or not do) something every day, don’t set yourself up for failure by going for a streak. Instead, set yourself up to win with this little change:
Try thinking “I am the kind of person who reads the Bible every day” instead of “I will read my Bible every day.”
With this change of thinking, one off day doesn’t ruin a streak. It’s a just a bad day – an anomaly. You save yourself all the negative self-talk that will rob you of getting back on track tomorrow.
By thinking “I am the kind of person who . . .” you can also bypass procrastination – there’s no room for “I’ll start tomorrow” because you are already today the kind of person who acts.
One other bonus with this variation on resolutions: if saying “I am the kind of person who goes to the gym” doesn’t get you excited, then maybe you’ve picked a resolution that isn’t a good fit and it’s time to think about why and make some changes.
Wishing you all the best in 2016, and may you do and become all you dream of!